Welcoming a newborn into the world is one of the most joyous occasions in life, but it can also be one of the most challenging—especially when it comes to soothing a fussy baby. Newborns cry as a way to communicate their needs, and while it’s completely normal, it can be overwhelming to know how to calm them down. As a new parent, figuring out what works for your baby is key to ensuring they feel safe, loved, and comforted.
In this post, we’ll explore seven simple, effective tips that will help you soothe your newborn and make those sleepless nights a little easier. These strategies are designed to calm your baby’s senses and provide comfort, helping both of you navigate the early days of parenthood with more confidence.
Try the 5 S’s: Swaddle, Side or Stomach Position, Shush, Swing, and Suck
The 5 S’s, created by pediatrician Dr. Harvey Karp, are a collection of soothing techniques that help recreate the comfort of the womb. These methods are effective in calming fussy babies, especially during their first few months.
Swaddle: Wrapping your baby snugly in a blanket provides them with a sense of security and can prevent the startle reflex that can wake them.
Side or Stomach Position: Holding your baby on their side or stomach (while you are awake and alert) can help them feel calm, but always place your baby on their back to sleep.
Shush: A calming “shh” sound, mimicking the noise your baby heard in the womb, can help calm their nerves.
Swing: Gentle rocking or swinging motions can mimic the sensation of movement they experienced while in the womb.
Suck: Sucking on a pacifier or your breast can help your baby self-soothe, as sucking is a natural calming mechanism.
Using one or more of these methods can often soothe a fussy baby within minutes.
Ensure Your Baby is Well-Fed
Hunger is one of the most common reasons babies cry. If your baby seems restless or is crying after a short time, it’s a good idea to check if they are hungry. Newborns typically need to be fed every 2-3 hours, but some babies may want to eat more frequently. If your baby is breastfeeding, make sure they are latching properly, and if you are bottle-feeding, ensure the nipple is the right size to prevent frustration.
If your baby continues to cry after feeding, they may need a burp to release trapped air. Burping your baby after each feed can help reduce discomfort caused by gas.
Check for Discomfort (Diaper, Clothing, Temperature)
Sometimes babies cry because of physical discomfort. It’s important to make sure that your baby is comfortable in every way possible:
Diaper: A wet or dirty diaper can make your baby feel uncomfortable and fussy. Check the diaper and change it if necessary.
Clothing: Tight or uncomfortable clothes can cause irritation. Ensure that your baby’s clothing is soft, comfortable, and appropriately sized.
Temperature: Babies can be sensitive to temperature. Make sure your baby is neither too hot nor too cold. Dress them in layers and check the room temperature to maintain a comfortable environment.
If your baby’s basic needs are met, it’s likely they will calm down.
Use Gentle, Calming Sounds
Newborns are used to the rhythmic, soothing sounds of the womb, like a heartbeat, blood flow, and digestive noises. Recreating these sounds at home can help calm your baby.
Try using a white noise machine or an app with soothing sounds like a heartbeat, rain, or ocean waves. You can also gently hum a lullaby or play soft music. These calming sounds can make your baby feel secure and provide comfort when they are upset.
Give Your Baby Some Tummy Time
Tummy time is essential for your baby’s development, but it can also serve as a soothing activity. When babies are on their stomachs, they often feel comforted, as this position mimics the curled-up position they had in the womb. If your baby is fussy and not wanting to sleep, try some supervised tummy time for a few minutes. This can help with digestion, strengthen muscles, and ease discomfort.
Make sure to supervise your baby during tummy time and place them on a soft surface. Gradually increase the length of tummy time as your baby gets older.
Offer a Pacifier
Pacifiers are a great way to provide comfort and soothe your baby. Many babies have a strong need to suck, even after they’ve finished eating. Offering a pacifier gives them the opportunity to self-soothe and calm down. Some studies suggest that using a pacifier during naps and bedtime may reduce the risk of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome). Just make sure to clean the pacifier regularly to avoid bacteria buildup.
If your baby isn’t interested in a pacifier, don’t worry—some babies simply don’t take to them. You can try other soothing methods instead.
Be Patient and Stay Calm
Sometimes, babies will cry for no apparent reason, and that’s okay. While it can be frustrating, it’s important to stay calm and patient. Babies are sensitive to their parents’ emotions, so if you’re feeling stressed, your baby might pick up on that energy. If you’ve tried all the usual soothing techniques and your baby is still upset, take a deep breath, and give yourself a break.
It’s perfectly normal for new parents to feel overwhelmed, and it’s okay to ask for help when you need it. Sometimes, just a few minutes of calm and relaxation can help reset your energy and give you the patience you need to try again.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
How long should I let my baby cry before trying to soothe them?
It’s recommended to try soothing techniques within a few minutes of your baby starting to cry. Babies typically cry for a few reasons (hunger, discomfort, tiredness), so addressing those needs early can help.
Is it okay to let my baby sleep on their stomach?
No, always place your baby on their back to sleep, as this reduces the risk of SIDS. Tummy time is important for development but should only be done while your baby is awake and supervised.
Can I use a pacifier to soothe my baby?
Yes, a pacifier can help soothe your baby and satisfy their need to suck. Just be sure to keep it clean and use it as a tool to calm your baby, not a long-term replacement for feeding.
How can I tell if my baby is crying from hunger or discomfort?
If your baby is crying and doesn’t seem to calm down after a feed, it might be due to discomfort (wet diaper, tight clothes, or temperature). Always check to see if any of those issues are present.
Is it normal for my baby to cry a lot?
Yes, crying is a normal part of newborn development. Babies cry to communicate their needs, and as you get to know your baby’s cues, you will find ways to comfort them more easily.
How can I help my baby sleep better at night?
Create a consistent bedtime routine, keep the sleep environment calm and dark, and make sure your baby is well-fed and comfortable before bed.
Can I pick up my baby every time they cry?
It’s perfectly fine to comfort your baby when they cry. Picking them up and offering comfort will help them feel secure. Over time, you’ll learn which cries need attention and which ones are just part of their development.
How often should I be giving my baby tummy time?
Start tummy time as early as the first few days home. Begin with a few minutes at a time and gradually increase as your baby gets stronger. Aim for 2-3 tummy time sessions per day.
With these soothing tips, you’ll feel more equipped to handle those fussy moments and create a comforting environment for your newborn. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey, and each day is a new opportunity to learn and grow with your baby.
