When you bring your newborn home, one of the biggest questions on your mind is probably: “When will my baby sleep—and how do I help them do it?” The first three months of your baby’s life are full of rapid changes, and sleep patterns can seem confusing, erratic, and downright exhausting for parents. But don’t worry—this stage is temporary, and understanding what’s normal can help you feel more confident (and a little more rested) during these early days.
Let’s break down what you need to know about newborn sleep in the first 12 weeks.
💤 What Does Normal Newborn Sleep Look Like?
Newborns sleep a lot—typically between 14 and 17 hours in a 24-hour period. But unlike adults, they don’t sleep for long stretches at a time. Instead, they sleep in short bursts of 2–4 hours day and night.
Here’s why:
- Tiny tummies: Babies need to feed often, especially in the early weeks. Hunger wakes them up.
- Developing circadian rhythm: Newborns don’t yet understand the difference between day and night.
- Light sleep cycles: Most of their sleep is in lighter stages, which helps protect them but also makes them easier to wake.
🗓 Month-by-Month Sleep Guide
Month 1: Adjusting to Life Outside the Womb
- Sleep is unpredictable.
- Total sleep: 14–17 hours per day.
- No real schedule yet—baby sleeps and wakes around the clock.
- Naps are frequent and short.
Month 2: Beginning to Show Patterns
- You may notice slightly longer stretches at night—maybe 3–4 hours.
- Baby might start to stay awake a bit longer during the day.
- Naps are still irregular, usually every 60–90 minutes.
Month 3: A Glimpse of Routine
- Sleep starts to organize into day and night cycles.
- Baby may sleep for a 5–6 hour stretch at night (if you’re lucky!).
- Naps may begin to consolidate into 3–4 longer naps.
🌙 Tips for Better Sleep in the First 3 Months
1. Follow Baby’s Sleep Cues
Yawning, fussiness, rubbing eyes, or staring off into space? These are signs your baby is tired. Try to lay them down before they become overtired.
2. Create a Simple Bedtime Routine
Even a newborn can benefit from a predictable routine: a warm bath, soft lullabies, gentle rocking, or dimming the lights signals it’s time to sleep.
3. Encourage Day-Night Awareness
During the day, keep lights on and interact with your baby. At night, keep things calm, quiet, and dark to teach the difference between night and day.
4. Swaddle Safely
Many newborns feel secure when swaddled, as it mimics the womb. Just make sure the swaddle is not too tight and always place your baby on their back to sleep.
5. Practice Safe Sleep
Always follow the ABC rule: Alone, on their Back, in a Crib. No pillows, loose blankets, or stuffed animals.
🧠 The 4th Trimester Mindset
The first three months are sometimes called the “fourth trimester”—a period of adjustment as your baby gets used to the world and you adjust to parenting. Remember, babies aren’t born ready to sleep through the night. Their needs are real and valid, even when it’s 3 a.m.
Try to rest when you can, accept help, and be kind to yourself during this time. You’re not doing anything wrong—this is just how newborn sleep works.
❓ Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
1. Why does my newborn wake up so often at night?
Newborns need frequent feedings—every 2 to 4 hours—because their stomachs are small. Their sleep cycles are short, so it’s completely normal for them to wake often.
2. When will my baby sleep through the night?
Most babies start sleeping longer stretches between 3 to 6 months. Sleeping “through the night” usually means 6–8 hours, not a full adult night.
3. Should I wake my baby to feed them?
In the first few weeks, yes—especially if your baby hasn’t regained their birth weight. After that, your pediatrician can guide you on whether to let them sleep longer stretches.
4. Is it okay to rock or nurse my baby to sleep?
Yes! In the early months, comforting your baby to sleep is totally fine. You can gradually teach independent sleep later, if you choose.
5. Why does my baby only nap for 30 minutes?
Newborns often have short sleep cycles. As their brain matures, they’ll start connecting sleep cycles and napping longer—usually around 3–4 months.
6. What’s the best sleep position for a newborn?
Always place your baby on their back to sleep. This reduces the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS).
7. Should I use a white noise machine?
Yes, white noise can help soothe your baby and mimic the sounds of the womb. Just keep it at a safe volume and distance from the crib.
8. Can I establish a sleep schedule this early?
At this stage, it’s more about routines than strict schedules. Pay attention to your baby’s natural rhythms and build habits that support better sleep over time.
